Parents Dating

Whether you are a single parent yourself or you are just single but have met a divorced father, there are some things to keep in mind to make the dating go more smoothly.

Here are some tips for dating a divorced father:

• Be prepared to be flexible – The children’s schedules will take priority, and so they should.  A divorced father who puts his children first should be something you find attractive.  A man who has the right priorities should be put up on a pedestal, not punished for doing right.
• Be ready that he will still have to talk with his ex-wife.  They will have to plan out their schedules and those of the children’s.
• Do not feel hurt if you do not get to meet his children right away.  This is the right thing for any parent who is dating to do.  It prevents the children from getting attached to each new adult that their dad might date.  Expect not to meet the children until your relationship is well-established and is serious.
• Learn about the children through pictures and stories of them.  When/if you do meet the children, do not expect for the children to like you right off the bat.  That could take some time.  They may feel threatened that you are trying to take their mother’s spot, and may even react poorly to you at the start.  Give it time, and try not to let it bother you.  Definitely, do not make your new boyfriend have to choose between you and their children.
• Once you have met the children, ensure that the father continues to have alone time with his children.  In other words, the divorced father should be spending time with his children when you are not around.  This is important as then it allows for the children to receive quality time and attention from their father.

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